Yesterday, I helped give a child’s mom advice on how to deal with add. Her child has it. Same age as me when I found out I had it and this little girl was so precious. The mother acknowledged hardships she has faced with her child on the medication she’s on, by agreeing with the ones I explained that I had experienced.
Told her little girl, “You may not remember me when you grow up but remember that you’re special and the other kids will never understand. You’re different from them, but it’s a good thing. You’ll find your right place in life one day, where you can make up all your own rules. And if you ever need to talk to anyone, you come see me and I’ll listen! ” I sent her off with a little sample and put on the bag princess lip gloss.
She is a child who, by her stories, who experiences social isolation. We talked for quite a while. Me and that little girl. She left I hope knowing I’ve been in her shoes. Sitting in a cafeteria with literally no one with you. Staring at the table, people staring and then all at once nothing more than a blur of existence.
“And your doubt can become a good quality if you train it. It must become knowing, it must become criticism. Ask it, whenever it wants to spoil something for you, why something is ugly, demand proofs from it, test it, and you will find it perhaps bewildered and embarrassed; perhaps also protesting. But don’t give in, insist on arguments, and act in this way, attentive and persistent, every single time, and the day will come when, instead of being a destroyer, it will become one of your best workers—perhaps the most intelligent of all the ones that are building your life.”—Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet (via alighthouseofwords)
“Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any misery, any depression, since after all you don’t know what work these conditions are doing inside you? Why do you want to persecute yourself with the question of where all this is coming from and where it is going? Since you know, after all, that you are in the midst of transitions and you wished for nothing so much as to change. If there is anything unhealthy in your reactions, just bear in mind that sickness is the means by which an organism frees itself from what is alien; so one must simply help it to be sick, to have its whole sickness and to break out with it, since that is the way it gets better.”—Letters To A Young Poet, Rainer Maria Rilke (via alighthouseofwords)
“Do you think I know what I’m doing? That for one breath or half-breath I belong to myself? As much as a pen knows what it’s writing, or the ball can guess where it’s going next.”—Rumi (via in-a-wonderland-they-lie)
“To dwell in the here and now does not mean you never think about the past or responsibly plan for the future. The idea is simply not to allow yourself to get lost in regrets about the past or worries about the future. If you are firmly grounded in the present moment, the past can be an object of inquiry, the object of your mindfulness and concentration. You can attain many insights by looking into the past. But you are still grounded in the present moment.”—Thich Nhat Hanh (via thecalminside)
“If you reveal everything, bare every feeling, ask for understanding, you lose something crucial to your sense of yourself. You need to know things that others don’t know. It’s what no one knows about you that allows you to know yourself.”—Don DeLillo, Point Omega (via wordsnquotes)
“I understand, all right. The hopeless dream of being—not seeming, but being. At every waking moment, alert. The gulf between what you are with others and what you are alone. The vertigo and the constant hunger to be exposed, to be seen through, perhaps even wiped out. Every inflection and every gesture a lie, every smile a grimace. Suicide? No, too vulgar. But you can refuse to move, refuse to talk, so that you don’t have to lie. You can shut yourself in. Then you needn’t play any parts or make wrong gestures. Or so you thought. But reality is diabolical. Your hiding place isn’t watertight. Life trickles in from the outside, and you’re forced to react. No one asks if it is true or false, if you’re genuine or just a sham. Such things matter only in the theatre, and hardly there either. I understand why you don’t speak, why you don’t move, why you’ve created a part for yourself out of apathy. I understand. I admire. You should go on with this part until it is played out, until it loses interest for you. Then you can leave it, just as you’ve left your other parts one by one.”—Persona. Dir. Ingmar Bergman. (via wordsnquotes)
“Existence is not something which allows itself to be thought of from a distance; it has to invade you suddenly, pounce upon you, weigh heavily on your heart like a huge motionless animal – or else there is nothing left at all.”—Jean-Paul Sartre, from Nausea (via violentwavesofemotion)
“We are not born cowardly or lazy; we choose to be these things. We are responsible for what we are. We are alone, without excuses. This is what I mean when I say that man is condemned to be free. If many people dislike this philosophy [existentialism] it is because they prefer to make excuses for themselves, to tell themselves that circumstances were against them. "I have not had a great love, or a great friendship, but it’s because I did not meet the right man or woman," they say. "If I have not written very good books, it’s because I haven’t the leisure time to do it," they say. The way I see it, all these people are simply lying to themselves about their freedom.”—Jean-Paul Sartre from a talk he gave titled "Is Existentialism a Humanism?" (via violentwavesofemotion)
“What will be left of all the fearing and wanting associated with your problematic life situation that every day takes up most of your attention? A dash, one or two inches long, between the date of birth and date of death on your gravestone.”—Eckhart Tolle (via unusuallyintoxicated)
“Reason lives by formulas; but life, which cannot be formulated, life which lives and seeks to live forever, does not submit to formulas. Its sole formula is: all or nothing. Feeling does not compound its differences with middle terms.”—Miguel de Unamuno - Tragic Sense of Life (via sisyphean-revolt)
“The first effect of existentialism is that it puts every man in possession of himself as he is, and places the entire responsibility for his existence squarely upon his own shoulders.”—Jean-Paul Sartre, “Existentialism is a Humanism” (via sisyphean-revolt)
“The hardest time to practice kindness is, of course, during a fight—but this is also the most important time to be kind. Letting contempt and aggression spiral out of control during a conflict can inflict irrevocable damage on a relationship. “Kindness doesn’t mean that we don’t express our anger,” Julie Gottman explained, “but the kindness informs how we choose to express the anger. You can throw spears at your partner. Or you can explain why you’re hurt and angry, and that’s the kinder path.””—Science says lasting relationships come down to—you guessed it—kindness and generosity. (via alexithymiadaily)
“I’m not afraid of the pain. So many people don’t know how to talk and comfort others because they are scared of that person’s sadness. You have to accept that as people, we are just trying to survive, and that means we do stupid shit physically to mute the mental pain. That’s life. And in order to help the people drowning, we have to accept that they might be great swimmers, but damn they are just tired and they need a hand even if it means you are going to get a little wet too.”—Stop being so afraid of others’ sadness (via brunettes-n-sunsets)