(via disordersoul)
You know why I’m lonely, I’m lonely because I don’t have that close special someone in my life.
One of the founding researchers on loneliness, Robert Weiss, got started studying loneliness quite by accident. He was actually interested in couples and primary relationships (that is, the close relationship one person has with another). What he found though, was that people who lack these “primary” relationships tended to be very lonely. In one of his writings he says, “I was puzzled by the upsurge of loneliness that seemed to follow the ending of even an unwanted marriage, by the persistence of loneliness despite new friendships and by the suddenness with which loneliness could be abated [with the promise of a new partner]." How often do we believe that if we just found that right person, entered that right relationship, our loneliness would also be abated. We don’t need ten thousand people (!), we just need that one special person. Weiss also believed that we needed that special person in our lives as well. He called that special person, our attachment figure, someone who gives us a sense of security or reassurance that we can face the world once again. Weiss believed that loneliness comes when there is that loss or absence of an attachment figure. In babies, a caretaker (usually a mother) is the attachment figure. When that mother leaves the room or doesn’t give the child the attention he/she needs, the baby cries for her mother and is restless and listless without her. So too, is our experience of loneliness when we have lost or are missing that attachment figure. We cry or are listless, we search everywhere to find that attachment figure, so that we can once again feel secure and feel loved. Weiss referred to this type of loneliness as loneliness of emotional isolation. In well-known terms, loneliness has been referred to as separation distress with an object.
I have finally gotten some decent photo’s of my little boy Paddington, I can’t wait ro share more pictures of him! 🐹📷
Guinea Pig: Paddington 🐾 Texel
Can’t sleep. Hungry. Time to sleep. Not time to eat. Fuck
"- You can bet you’re not getting them back, 18/02/2016 (via afadingdancer)“He left and everything went dark,” she whispers. “Why is everything so dark?”
They sigh, “You made him your constellations, you made him your everything, and then he left. He took your stars and he left.”
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(Source: supposedtobe)
"I used to move on when someone didn’t feel the same. I used to find someone else to break my heart. After you, though, I stopped looking for someone new. Now, when someone makes me laugh, smile, or blush, all I can think about is how they don’t do it quite like you did."- you fundamentally altered me (via multa–paucis)
"It’s true what they say;- n.h.s [percussionhearts] (via percussionhearts)
people are at their most beautiful
when they’re at their most passionate.
I sit and I watch her take paint into art
while the passion pours out of her eyes.
I watch her and I want so badly
to put her existence into words,
like how the light shines behind her
everywhere she goes,
and how I can see her heart glowing while mine aches
like a beautiful, bittersweet love
contaminating my every muscle.
I watch her doing the thing she loves most
and I want so badly to put her smile into words.
I want so badly to write down this feeling
that is swarming through my chest
when I look at her like she is the only piece of art on this earth.
I want so badly to put into words
how I honestly, utterly, totally,
and completely
believe that she is."
(via percussionhearts)
"although we could never be together, it was nice while it lasted. we were like the beginning of autumn, i saw the subtleness in your red and yellow eyes as we lost our green, green grass smile. it was new, but it was sin. we could never love the right way, or be the right one. although we should just walk away, our temptations and desires fuel more fires. i think it’s lovely to die this time around, because although you are taken, you are mine now and i think that’s all that matters. years from now if we longer love, you’ll be in my dreams. a lover i could hold forever, but not as a real person, a mere fruit. decaying and worm filled. you are undying, yet light. you are passion, yet red was all we had. stop, a sign from when we could no longer continue."- i think i could always love you, my unrequited lover. (via poetryleftbyher)
(Source: pianoetry)
"This is for the unspoken feelings- Wordless thoughts (via tranquilist)
The unsaid thoughts
Words that were formed
But somehow got lost
This is for the sleepless nights
The dreams deprived
Replaced by counting sheep
And open eyes"
"In that moment, I felt my heart stop in my chest, and my smile faltered for a fraction of a second. I looked into his eyes and suddenly I saw everything. I listened to his laugh and suddenly I felt everything. Everything fell apart and came back together in that second, because that second was the moment I realized I had fallen in love."- sparklinqdiamonds (via sparklinqdiamonds)
"It’s strange. Before you fall in love, you think that you are happy, but once the love is gone, you realize how empty you really are."- (via logannicole1)
(Source: poemcafe)
"In the complicated game of relationships,- The Carcoleptic (via thecarcoleptic)
the first person to fall in love, loses
and the first person to fall out, wins."
(via thecarcoleptic)